In December in 2015 I stopped drinking, now my goal wasn’t to give it up forever but 6 to 8 weeks. But what I had learned in those 8 weeks of being sober was I no longer needed to drink in social events to have a good time or to be sociable, but that didn’t happen overnight.
Things that I learned once I stopped drinking.
- Waking up was so much easier after going out
- When going out on good nights they are way better sober, nights that are lame are way lamer sober (the ying and yang method)
- It becomes easier going out sober the more you do it.
- Peer Pressure in the beginning is going to suck; but gets easier
- People get very uncomfortable with you not drinking.
- Prepare to lose “friends”
When you start thinking about not drinking you need to have plan. If you just think you are going to stop and nothing else is going to change you are mistaken. The first step is having the right mindset. If you think that its just going to be a walk in the park, you are wrong. There will be peer pressure, self pressure, and an environment that will be very uncomfortable with you not drinking.
So make sure you have strong convictions to why you want to stop drinking. My reason was I wanted abs more then I wanted a hangover. And that goal was strong enough to deal with everyone else’s discomfort or me not drinking, and their pressure to get me to do so.
You have to remember to not let others control your goal, you control it.
Figure out what is going to hold you back from keeping this commitment to yourself, and then lean into it, face those challenges and succeed. You will also need to have a plan on how you plan on handling peer pressure. If that is hard for you, then don’t get into the situations that you think you will succumb to the temptation. I don’t keep junk food in my condo for the sole purpose I can’t eat what I don’t have around to eat.
Have a Drink In Hand (Non-Alcoholic Of Course)
The easiest way not to have peer pressure and to combat everyone getting uncomfortable with you not drinking, is have a drink in hand. Bottle waters and Red Bull worked for me since I didn’t care if people knew I wasn’t drinking. I was steadfast to my goal. But if you are still not confident in your self-control like I was, thats ok. Get to the restaurant or bar before your friends, make friends with the server, bartender etc and tell them what you are doing. Have them feed you club sodas, a fruity looking drink that looks like it could be an alcoholic drink. Give them a nice tip up front and they will take care of you.
Steer Clear of Temptation
As I mentioned before if you can’t control some temptation stay clear of it. Like I said I like to eat crap a lot more now that I eat super clean. But I can’t eat what I don’t have. When you want to go out and have fun with your friends. Some ideas maybe stay clear of the clubs, try to get your crew to go to dinners, movies, games, things were binge drinking isn’t a thing.
Make a Goal longer then a Month
If you are serious of giving up drinking you need to make a goal of more then 30 days. My goal was 6 weeks with a possible 2 more. I didn’t see my goals with my abs at six weeks so I went two more. When eights came I like what I saw ab wise so it kept me going. While most new habits take 28 days to change but it takes in my mind closer to 90 days to make it a new part of your life, and part of who you are. Six to eights weeks may not have been a long enough goal to make it. That might have been a good 1/2 point. Because it took that long to see the results I was going for. About 90 days is a good amount of time to set your goal.
Believe in Yourself.
We are a lot stronger than we might think we are. You have the self-will to do this, you need to believe and learn to say NO. Everyone who is pressuring you is their shortcomings. And you not drinking may make them uncomfortable, but that is their problem not yours. You need to do what is right for you, not them.
If I can be of anymore help please reach out to me.
Please send me a message or start a discussion below, if things haven’t happen to you as you’ve planned. Someone like you is think the same thing, however they are waiting on YOU to start the discussion